OkCupidReviews 646

A high-school alumni friend suggested OK Cupid because he used it when his long-term girlfriend died. I live on the opposite coast. Three Strikes and OK Cupid is Out! First was a well-known respected married scientist. We sincerely liked each other. But he got cold feet after our coffee date and knew he would be caught-too many red flags that he would raised. Second was a widowed man who lost his wife last year. We exchanged pleasant OK Cupid chats of our major common interests. Then, he disappeared - never to be heard from again. The third was an oil driller who wrote that appeared to be sincere notes. I gave him the benefit of the doubt when he wrote idealized messages about me. His last words were that he has prayed looking for a woman like myself. And lo and behold, I came across the horizon. Then, he disappeared. How convenient for these men to play it safe for a week's time with a flirtation over the computer. There was not going to be coffee dates nor concerts nor restaurants - absolutely false information from these males. To me, these males are cowards who sit by the safety of their computers and imagine great worlds. There will be no more online dating for me. What a Joke!

I have used this site for years. It is free and that is good. However, there are a lot of players and scammers on Okcupid. You really have to sort through the people. It seems worse if you change settings to "interested in men/women anywhere" Many times they will gang up on you. One will ask a question and it's strange how another will come on the site and immediately question you on same question. Sometimes they will act like they know what you told another person. And they really don't carry on a conversation that much or they have a lot of strange grammar. Most all of them are really good looking and it seems instantaneously they are wanting to chat like they have you on radar... but they just want information and usually disappear. Most of the time they want to get off the site and want you to give them your number, email or hangout address which I refrain.

Okcupid does have a bunch of personality tests and quizzes which I think is really cool. When they are trying to match you up with someone, you get matched by a certain percent according to the questions you both have answered.

Joined OK cupid and paid 6 month subscription for A-List about 10 days ago. Now I get "Were having technical difficulties, try again later" every time I try to sign on - although the website itself says that it is up an running with no issues. Customer service simply will not reply to requests for help. Have gleaned from internet search that this error message probably means that my account was banned.
So I'm out the subscription fee ($47.70) and all the time and effort I put into making a profile and answering questions, as well as the contacts I had made on the site. Not sure if my account was really blocked. Only thing that I can think might have caused an issue it that I am now stationed in Afghanistan (I'm a US citizen). Otherwise I have no idea what I could possibly have done to get blocked. Looks like I'll never know.
I complained to the BBB. I also disputed the credit card charge with from my bank.
From the large numbers of posts from previous subscribers who get the same error it appears OK Cupid commonly bans accounts arbitrarily but never give any reason or even let you know that you've been banned. They also don't respond to customer service complaints.
I consider that a very poor, even fraudulent business practice. I doubt OK cupid cares that they took my money and did not provide the promised service. But I suspect they will care if enough people complain to their credit card providers, and then mastercard or visa blocks them as a merchant.

It seems that that there may be some real people behind the mask but it's very difficult to find them and once you do they do not write back. The new policy seems to be to greatly limit search features which is the only good thing about this service. However if you can't search by a specific query then you have to spend hours and hours searching and searching and still not finding anyone. On the other hand scammers and abusers are quick to send messages and some of these appear to be dangerous. Don't bother with OKCupid. There must be a better way!

I've been trying out online dating on and off for a few years now and used several sites including Match, POF and Zoosk. I find OKC has the best matching system and overally design for ease-of-use. The site is free to join and send messages. But you can subscribe to additional services e.g. invisible browsing, for £20 a month free, which i thought was pretty reasonable.
In terms of users, the site is filled with the usual insecure, bitter men who flip when you don't respond to their messages within the hour. In particular watch out for the user voxoid1313 who is eternally 36 and single. When in actual fact he is 43 and has a girlfriend and son who he fails to mention on his profile. He is also unemployed and not exactly a musician... rather he plays the same old songs to the elderly at nursing homes. He will draw you in with his web of lies and then spit you out. So just keep your eyes and ears open and date safe!

OKCupid wasn't perfect in the short time that I used it. The questions are on the silly side, and there is a LOT of crap to sift through. But, I stuck it out, and one day I got a genuine message from a very attractive guy! We chatted for a few days before exchanging numbers, and we got to know each other via text and phone calls for a month before we met. We dated for exactly a year to the day of meeting before getting engaged, and we are getting married in April (10 months later). If you're willing and open, I hope you can find a love story like mine. I could not have asked for a more perfect man to spend the rest of my life with. Good luck to you!

I tried POF and that didn't take so I decided to try OkCupid since I heard it was a lot different. You fill out a personality assessment and answer questions for it to help find you people that match up. I was feeling hopeful about that feature until I saw the messages I was getting. Every guy that messaged me was very unattractive and to be blunt I'm an 8 so I was baffled guys like that even had the nerve to message me. I wait two weeks to see if it changed. Not one message. Not one person stood out to me or was even average looking. I'm not sure if it's better when you pay for a membership but the free features are definitely a no-go. If you're someone who isn't unfortunate looking I don't recommend this site. These are the types of people that live in their mom's basement. Put off free online dating completely.

Been there, done that, still there for the automatic laughs.
Here is a hint " you have such a smile sparkling " 1. Grammar! 2 in my pics o do NOT smile
Extremely long introduction ending with could you be the one for me. NO
Also the widowed father and child that just moved here and want You in their lives. Plus don't forget the ones that were in Florida last month, Indiana last week, South Dakota this week with exact same pictures and profile. Bots never answer more than 5 of OKC questions. Take it all in stride. Play safe and with a grain of salt.

I've been on OKC for several years, on and off. I have met several ladies through the site who I had a lot of fun with. I like the fact that is essentially free. Most sites don't let you message people unless you pay. OKC is not like that you can message people right away. I suppose the downside is that many women especially the more attractive ones get a TON of messages. As a guy I find that many women don't respond to my messages often, my best results is where the girl has contacted me first.

I like the Q&A format. While some people who have answered 1000 questions just have too much time on their hands, I find it enables me to get a good feel if we are compatible. E.g. People who answer the question "Which is bigger the sun or the earth" and get it wrong blow me away! It makes me wonder if they rest of their answers are random.

I pay for A-list so that I can browse profiles without being seen and I can tell if a girl opened my email and just did not respond.

The biggest thing about OKC I like is the clean layout. Compared to the mess that is PlentyofFish OKC is super organized. They changed navigation slightly recently and I don't like it as much but it's still very clean.

And once again it's free.

The questions to answer is a stupid waste of time. I'm pretty sure my potential match doesn't care if I like crunchy or creamy peanut butter. None of my ex's cared about that. I've been off and on the site for many many years. I always started with POF, and when that site turned up silent and cold, I would switch to OKC. I've been single about 3 months now, and decided to get "back out there" I joined pof 3 months ago and I haven't gotten 1 email, message or wink. Talk about a shot to my confidence. After deleting my pof profile, I opened one up on okc. I re-activated my old account where I've answered well over 300 questions. After updating all my pictures and calling it a night I logged on about 3 days later. With 67 views to my profile 44 people liking me and 1 message in my inbox. And it was some guy from turkey who said I had pretty eyes. I logged off again for a few more days, came back and had 22 views, 7 people that liked me and 0 messages. I've gone ahead and messaged a bunch of guys, saying their profiles and personalities are hilarious, and they're interesting, funny, talented ect. Not a single reply. All the guys in my area are looking for an adventurous skinny free spirit, and they're the complete opposite! I know I live in ca but that superficial-ness is really unrealistic. I just deleted my profile, maybe online dating just isn't for me. I don't know why I keep going back, but there has to be a better site out there with people actually willing to talk to you.

I have got to say, reading all of the reviews on this site, that I have to wonder whether we are using the same thing?

Every one of my last 4 relationships, over the past 10 years, has been either with women whom I have met on OKC, or whom I have met through friends that I have made through women I have met on OKC... And I have never encountered a scammer there!

Maybe it's because I only spend time on women with a >= 90% match and a <= 10% enemy with me...!

I find their matching algorithm to be excellent... And it doesn't matter how silly the questions are, it will match you with people who answered similarly as you did!